I used to be scared of open relationships because I dreaded the possibility of finding somebody I’d love more or just somebody else I’d love or better sex or someone who would make me break the golden rule to shag a guy only once no matter how much you fancy him. Too much of a gamble.
But then I realised being scared of all this is actually the sign that I don’t trust my current relationship.
There’s so much pressure on us to stick to the squeaky clean romantic couple model even for gay men.
As far as I’m concerned, I’m still in the process of breaking free from the conventions and allowing myself to think out of the box without guilt. Love is infinite and as I meet new people, I don’t stop loving the ones I already know. Same as if I had several children. I wouldn’t love the 1st one less as siblings would follow.